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		<title>Why Motivation Doesn’t Really Matter</title>
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		<description><![CDATA[Shared by Erik Excellent intuition for those that don&#8217;t elicit the results they need with typical productivity and life hacks! Article by Zen Habits contributor Jonathan Mead; follow him on twitter. Have you ever really wanted to do something, but you just weren’t motivated enough to do it? This is always my number one reason [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<blockquote><p>Shared by  Erik</p>
<p>Excellent intuition for those that don&#8217;t elicit the results they need with typical productivity and life hacks!</p></blockquote>
<h6>Article by Zen Habits contributor <a href="http://illuminatedmind.net">Jonathan Mead</a>; follow him on <a href="http://twitter.com/jonathanmead">twitter</a>.</h6>
<p>Have you ever really wanted to do something, but you just weren’t motivated enough to do it?</p>
<p>This is always my number one reason for not taking action, as I’m sure it’s probably yours too. If you’re not motivated, you just don’t have the energy or the drive to do what you need to do, right? Simple enough.</p>
<p>But here’s three of the biggest problems with relying on being highly motivated all the time:</p>
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<li>Maybe you don’t really care about what you’re doing. Maybe it doesn’t really matter and you’re trying to force yourself to do something you don’t want to do. In this case, your lack of motivation is your subconscious telling you “this is not important” or “this does not align with my values.”</li>
<li>Energy comes in waves. And just as each wave has a crest, it also has a trough. Sometimes your level of motivation will be like a rushing tsunami. At other times, it will be a steady flow. These are natural rhythms and following these rhythms are important, because if you don’t, <strong>you will burn out.</strong></li>
<li>Sometimes you won’t be excited before you take action, but you will feed good <em>after you’re done.</em> Take exercise for example. A lot of people dread or loathe working up a sweat. They are not motivated beforehand, at least not enough for them to break through the mental resistance to the work that will be done. But, they feel <em>awesome</em> when they’ve finished exercising. Therefore, sometimes you can’t rely on being highly motivated before, <strong>sometimes you have to rely on being motivated <em>after</em>.</strong></li>
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<p>Does that mean that motivation is unimportant? No, it’s still important and it does play a role. But too often, it’s easy to get caught up in relying on being <em>totally psyched</em> about something before you do it.</p>
<p>You will not always be totally psyched.</p>
<p>And that’s okay. Does water get anxious when it reaches a depression in the earth? No, it is completely content in its state of acquiescence. When it reaches a hill it does not worry that it now has to travel faster and pick up its pace. It simply flows down the hill.</p>
<p>The way water flows is called <em>following your natural rhythms. </em></p>
<p>The reason I first started looking at this different way of approaching my goals was because typical motivation hacks didn’t work for me. Sometimes they would work, and sometimes they wouldn’t. Sometimes visualizing success would be highly motivating and sometimes it would simply flunk with a dull thud. It was only when I allowed myself to let go, that I success started to come more easily for me.</p>
<p>I admit, this may seem hard to at first, but it’s a matter of trust. You have to trust your authentic self to guide you in when it’s time to take action and when it is time to just be.</p>
<p>Here are a few ways to practice this non-striving way of manifesting your desires:</p>
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<li><strong>Practice listening to your intuition.</strong> A lot of us have a tendency to question the validity of our intuition. We favor our rational mind and its sure, logical method of explanation. Our intuitive mind, however, is just as valid. As Einstein once said “The intuitive mind is a sacred gift and the rational mind is a faithful servant. We have created a society that honors the servant and has forgotten the gift.” Learn to honor your intuitive gift by practicing asking yourself questions and listening to the response you give yourself without trying to logically deduce the answer.</li>
<li><strong>Take time to ask yourself what you really want.</strong> We often get so caught up in the <em>attachment</em> to achieving our goals that we forget to listen to what we actually want. Instead of us creating goals as a means to fulfill our desires, we become enslaved by them. Whenever you feel that your goal is weighing you down, ask yourself “What do I really want?” and listen silently to the answer you receive.</li>
<li><strong>Accept that you won’t always be insanely motivated.</strong> If you’re waiting to take action until you’re incredibly motivated, you’re putting a lot of pressure on yourself. It’s better to ease the strain by allowing yourself to be mildly interested or even in a state of dread. Allowing yourself to be in this state makes it easier to <em>move past it</em> because you’re no longer resisting it. When you resist the state you’re in, you perpetuate it.</li>
<li><strong>Tap into your flow.</strong> We all have times when we’re more creative or more energized, and we all have times where we feel like resting and recharging. For some of us, these ebbs and flows may happen at certain times of the day, for others it may be completely random. The point is to pay attention and exploit these fluxes of energy. By taking massive action when you are full of energy and by allowing yourself to relax when you are in a state of calm, you respect and honor yourself. You will accomplish more by following your natural rhythms than you would trying to force yourself.</li>
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<p>There is a time for being productive and there is a time for resting. Just as in nature there is a time for activity and new life in the spring, and there is a time for rest and turning inward in the winter.</p>
<p>Just as nature knows that its perpetual growth is unsustainable, we must realize that expecting to be productive all the time, leads to burn out and being <em>less productive.</em></p>
<p>Maybe it’s time we start listening to our bodies. I think the more we follow the way of nature, the more intelligently we live.</p>
<p><strong>This article was written by Zen Habits contributor Jonathan Mead of <a rel="nofollow" href="http://www.illuminatedmind.net/">Illuminated Mind</a>.  For more unconventional ideas, grab a <em><a rel="nofollow" href="http://feeds.feedburner.com/IlluminatedMind">subscription to Illuminated Mind.</a></em></strong></p>
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		<title>Imminence; Recognize and Capitalize</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 14 Apr 2009 11:03:58 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Erik</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[First off, I love this word&#8230; Much like the &#8220;a picture is worth a thousand words&#8221; adage, certain words encompass various thoughts that succinctly coincide.  Imminent is one of them; notwithstanding the fact that often words carry multiple meanings as well. I digress- Seth Godin in his recent article titled Imminent, describes venture capitalists in [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>First off, I love this word&#8230; Much like the &#8220;a picture is worth a thousand words&#8221; adage, certain words encompass various thoughts that succinctly coincide.  Imminent is one of them; notwithstanding the fact that often words carry multiple meanings as well.</p>
<p>I digress-</p>
<p><a title="Seth Godin's Bio" href="http://sethgodin.typepad.com/about.html" target="_blank">Seth Godin</a> in his recent article titled <a title="Seth Godin - Imminent" href="http://sethgodin.typepad.com/seths_blog/2009/04/imminent.html" target="_blank">Imminent</a>, describes venture capitalists in a certain light: <em>&#8220;The brilliant venture capitalists are the guys who invest their money months or years before everyone else realizes how imminent the success is. They have better radar than the rest of us.&#8221;</em> Seth does an excellent job of having a foresight and big picture recognition of need.  Ironically the context of what I&#8217;m describing is the parent of just what he mentions.  I wholeheartedly intend on being someone positioned much the same way.  I enjoy the way I understand how systems work.  Beyond that, I have a passion for figuring out how they play into the grand scheme of things.  Whether it&#8217;s projections on future trends of technology, or strategy in business, these passions energize me.  Find out the true passions that exude the feeling of imminence to your situation, and capitalize on those.</p>
<p>What do you believe to be Imminent in your life?  No matter the focus -a business venture, career advancement, life changing events, potential relationships etc- what are the factors that speak to you voluminously to the fact that these are truly imminent?  What is it that gives you that &#8216;gut feeling&#8217;?  Identify, analyze how they motivate you, and capitalize.</p>
<p>Seth goes on to describe the success by being able to identify and leverage such factors: <em>&#8220;Your job as a marketer or entrepreneur is to amplify the signals that buyers and investors look for. Spend your money on the right stuff, ignore the rest. If you try to market and spend on every element of your story, you&#8217;ll be merely average. If, on the other hand, you can focus on which signals represent an imminent success, the leverage kicks in.&#8221;</em></p>
<p>I have great faith that they are imminent for you as well; but as most point out, the world isn&#8217;t listening until you get its attention-</p>
<p>To your [imminent] success!</p>
<p>-E</p>
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		<title>Stress, the Turgor of Life</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 14 Apr 2009 10:20:52 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[Incredible insight on Stress from Breakfast with Fred.  The article is called Holding a Taut Line and can be found below. A few highlights that I found particularly powerful: &#8220;Botanists teach us about the importance of turgor – that normal fullness that comes from the tension produced by fluid flowing through veins of plants.  Lack [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Incredible insight on Stress from Breakfast with Fred.  The article is called Holding a Taut Line and can be found below.</p>
<p>A few highlights that I found particularly powerful:</p>
<p><em><span style="font-family: Times New Roman,Times,serif; font-size: small;">&#8220;Botanists teach us about the importance of turgor – that normal fullness that comes from the tension produced by fluid flowing through veins of plants.  Lack of proper tension makes plants droop.  We are no different.  Without a healthy degree of stress and tension, we wilt.</span></em></p>
<p><em>Certainly we must control stress, but we must not eliminate it.  One of the finest ways to control it is by learning to appreciate it, rather than fearing it.  If you didn’t have tension, you wouldn’t have enough ambition to become successful.&#8221;</em></p>
<p><span style="font-family: Times New Roman,Times,serif; font-size: small;"><em>&#8220;The same thing is true in life.  We either face problems as challenges or withdraw into the shell of inertia.  We can choose to see obstacles or opportunities.</em></span></p>
<p><em><strong>This week think carefully about: </strong> 1) How am I using stress to my advantage? 2) Where am I causing stress for others? 3) What is my biggest current challenge and am I running forward or backward?</em></p>
<p><em><strong>Words of Wisdom:</strong> “We either face problems as challenges or withdraw into the shell of inertia.”</em></p>
<p>I love the analogy of plants and turgor.  The necessity to have a healthy tension that perpetually propels us to succeed is essential to personal sustainability.  Often I, as well as loved ones around me, continually gripe of the tumultuous battles with stress.  I find enlightenment in the fact that stress has a healthy, pull you forward degree as well.  As an opportunist, I&#8217;ve always imagined problems as challenges with an opportunity lying on the other side.  However, tying such opportunism to the inherent nature of stress is, well, stress relieving.  I will reflect on the &#8220;this week think carefully&#8221; points and urge you to do the same.  Our greatest successes often emerge from victory over such challenges.</p>
<p>-E</p>
<p>Below is the article in it&#8217;s entirety as it has yet to be posted on the <a title="Breakfast with Fred website" href="http://www.breakfastwithfred.com" target="_blank">Breakfast with Fred</a> Website:</p>
<p>&#8221;</p>
<p><span style="font-family: Times New Roman,Times,serif; font-size: small;"><strong><img src="http://www.breakfastwithfred.com/wt/taut.jpg" alt="" width="429" height="66" /></strong></span></p>
<p><strong></strong>Successful leaders have learned to appreciate tension.  I am convinced that positive stress is a wonderful thing.  Where else would we get the energy to carry out our responsibilities?</p>
<p>Botanists teach us about the importance of turgor – that normal fullness that comes from the tension produced by fluid flowing through veins of plants.  Lack of proper tension makes plants droop.  We are no different.  Without a healthy degree of stress and tension, we wilt.</p>
<p>Certainly we must control stress, but we must not eliminate it.  One of the finest ways to control it is by learning to appreciate it, rather than fearing it.  If you didn’t have tension, you wouldn’t have enough ambition to become successful.</p>
<p>We had a young man who, when asked the question, “How long have you been working for the company?” responded, “Ever since the boss threatened to fire me!”  This young man didn’t have the eye of the tiger, nor the fire in the belly that true leaders need.  Successful men and women have an intense rhythm and energetic pace.</p>
<p>I sometimes hear wives complain about how tired their husbands are at night.  I think this is part of the price of being a leader.  You can’t have the placidity of a mule and the winnings of a racehorse!</p>
<p>A psychiatrist friend of mine was sent to Guadalcanal following the bloody battles with the Japanese in 1942  to talk with both the cowards and the heroes to see why each reacted as he did.  My friend told me that both were motivated by the same great fear, but the heroes ran forward and the cowards ran backward.</p>
<p>The same thing is true in life.  We either face problems as challenges or withdraw into the shell of inertia.  We can choose to see obstacles or opportunities.</p>
<p><strong>This week think carefully about: </strong> 1) How am I using stress to my advantage? 2) Where am I causing stress for others? 3) What is my biggest current challenge and am I running forward or backward?</p>
<p><strong>Words of Wisdom:</strong> “We either face problems as challenges or withdraw into the shell of inertia.”</p>
<p><span style="font-family: Times New Roman,Times,serif; font-size: small;"><strong>Wisdom from the Word:</strong> “Stay alert, stand firm in the faith, show courage, be strong.” (I Corinthians 16:13 NET Bible)</span></p>
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